My Daughter the Selfie Queen

If you follow my personal Instagram (@arielnagi 😉) you know I love selfies. I even have a Lumee case because I know that a good selfie is all about perfect lighting. If I learned anything from being a shameless Kardashian fan, it was to selfie on with no regrets. 

Well, I guess my daughter takes after me. I was scrolling through my camera roll and look what I found 😂. 

   
 
You’ve got to admit, for a 3 year old, her selfie game is strong. 

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Q+A: Eiza Gonzalez On Her First American Role and Moving Past All That Scandalous Gossip

She had that brief fling last year with Miley Cyrus’ ex, Liam Hemsworth.

Most Latinos recognize Eiza Gonzalez as a novela reina — Nikki in Amores Verdaderos or Lola from Lola…Érase Una Vez. But the Mexican singer, model, and actress is leaving her telenovela career behind, at least for now. She’s currently focusing on her first English-language role as Santanico Pandemonium on Robert Rodriguez’s From Dusk Till Dawn: The Series. Gonzalez chats with Cosmopolitan For Latinas about her crossover, gaining weight for the role, and how she dealt with all the gossip and criticism following her short-lived hookup with Miley Cyrus’ ex-boyfriend, Liam Hemsworth.

You have to play the same role the amazing Salma Hayek did in the original movie, From Dusk Till Dawn. Were you nervous?
It was very overwhelming but amazing at the same time. We always say in all the interviews that we didn’t think about the original actors until we started getting interviewed and people start asking. It’s like, if every Batman had to watch the original Batman — it makes no sense. It’s just a new version of it; it’s not that someone’s better or worse. Everyone’s adding their own little thing to it. But it’s awesome to play iconic characters.

This is your first American role. What was the transition like?
Robert helped me so much to make me feel very comfortable, because obviously, English is my second language. It was hard to be on the same level as everyone. Learning all the monologues, learning all the lines, saying them correctly — it’s a completely new technique. In Mexico, it’s completely different. But I had so much going on in my head at that moment that I had no chance to be comparing myself.

I hear you had to gain weight for the scene. 
There were two things I had to go through: I had to dye my hair because I was a blonde, and I had to gain a lot of weight, especially coming out of a project where I was super skinny. I did a soap opera [Amores Verdaderos] where I was playing a girl with bulimia, and I lost so much weight for that character. So now it’s really awesome for me to go and do a job where I had to gain weight. So, it’s In–N-Out everyday: Milkshakes, desserts — I’m loving it. And the cool thing is that Robert likes to really embrace the real woman’s curves. So when I talked about gaining weight, I was like “Okay, so you want me to go to the gym and gain muscle,” and he’s like, “No I want you to look timeless, like no one can tell what moment in life you’re going through. I don’t want you to look like a 2014 woman who’s super ripped. I need real curves.” So I can’t say it was terrible.

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16 Things No One Tells You About Being a Young Mom

Changing diapers and watching Barney reruns suck, but your life doesn’t end just because you had a kid in your early 20s.

1. Raising a child is a challenge, regardless of your age. Of course, when you’re younger, you have fewer years of Real Life Experience, but no matter how old you are, taking care of a child is the hardest thing you will ever do. I got pregnant at 22 and I believe in some ways a woman in her 30s might have been more prepared than I was to have a child, but if she doesn’t have experience with babies the same way I didn’t, she’s going to have just as tough of a time swaddling and changing diapers.

2. It doesn’t get “easier.” When I was pregnant, people would always talk about the “easy” stages versus the tough stages and how girls were harder than boys. The truth is, it hasn’t gotten easier or more difficult. It was tough trying to put a newborn baby to sleep, breastfeed her every couple of hours, and deal with her colic. But it’s also tough now that she’s a toddler to get her to eat all her vegetables — or even to eat at all — to go to sleep on a proper schedule, and to not write on the walls. They go through phases, and they’re all challenging and test your patience.

3. Babysitting experience doesn’t mean anything. When I first got pregnant, I would tell myself, “You got this, girl. You used to babysit everyone’s kid.” WRONG. Watching someone else’s kid doesn’t compare. Sure, I knew how to warm up a bottle or mix some formula, but I wasn’t prepared to wake up at 6 a.m. every morning or get pooped and vomited on.

4. It’s not as scary as you think. You spend your entire pregnancy nervous — especially because you’re young — but once your baby gets here, all that goes away. Don’t get me wrong, there are times where you feel overwhelmed and worried, but it’s a learning process. Motherly duties and tasks become second nature. 

5. Having a child early can positively impact your career. I’m not going to lie. Having to care for another person makes it a lot more difficult to do things for yourself. However, becoming a parent gives you motivation no one else understands. At the end of the day, you want to be a better person so your child can have all he or she needs, so you work ten times harder to get where you want to be.

6. Your circle of friends will likely change. You start to wonder if you want to hang out with that chick who’s always drunk by noon on weekdays because you want to set a good example for your kid. Also, some of your friends will not be able to handle your new lifestyle, so you might grow apart. I still keep in touch with some of my close friends, but I’ve made new friends with other women who have kids around my daughter’s age. 

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This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com.

Shakira Looks Dangerously Sexy In These Photos

Stop everything and take a look at one of the sexiest women on earth. Shakira reminds us all (not that we need a reminder) just how perfect she is in these amazing promotional photos for her new album, Shakira, available March 25.  Go to Cosmoplitan.com for more photos. (Photo via RCA records).

Guess Which Ex Marc Anthony Might Be Getting Back With?

It breaks my heart to tell you that it is not J.Lo. 

In the midst his child support and custody battle with ex-wife Dayanara Torres, Marc Anthony has been cozying up with his ex-girlfriend, beautiful Venezuelan model Shannon De Lima. And some people think the two might be getting married. De Lima posted two photos of her and Anthony on her Instagram within a week, and in one of them, she’s wearing a big rock on her left hand. 

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16 Stereotypes of Latinas That Need To Stop

*This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com

 

Yes, we’re all one-dimensional sexpots from the hood with lots of cleavage — WRONG.

1. We all have accents. 
We always sound like Gloria on Modern Family. We can’t pronounce anything properly in English to save our lives. All our V’s sound like B’s and Y’s sound like U’s. “Very” always sounds like “berry” and “you” is always “ju.” 

2. We love to dance.
Especially salsa, because for some reason the world thinks this is the only genre of Latin music. We’re also always incredibly good at every other type of dancing (I’m living proof that this is FALSE).

3. We are all maids.
And our fathers are always construction workers or janitors.

4. Our men are crappy, but who cares, because they’re the best lovers.
Casa Blanca, Latin Lovers — the list goes on.

5. We always eat tacos or rice and beans. And we love tequila.
And don’t forget that sombreros and ponchos are part of our everyday wardrobe.

6. We love to show cleavage.
Every Latina in television, movies, or ads is super-sexy — huge boobs, a voluptuous figure, always wearing a low-cut, skin-tight dress.

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Stop Worrying So Much This Year!

Well peeps, it’s 2014, and I did make some resolutions in my head, but I vowed to not talk about them so much because I almost never follow them. Here’s the deal: I always promise myself to save more money, blog more, exercise more, wake up earlier — things like that. Will I do any of those things? I don’t know. At the end of the day, I’m a working mother. I most likely won’t have time to obsess over other things. 

Here’s what I do know: I really, really need to stop worrying so much about what I need to do. That’s my problem. I have so many responsibilities. I have a baby to care for, loans to pay off, things to plan daily at work, body image issues — just sooo much stuff. Maybe we should all resolve to stop only making goals at the beginning of each year. We might just end up like this chick, who became so obsessed with proving to the world that she could keep a New Year’s resolution, that she literally only ate and drank Starbucks for an entire year. That’s a lot of vanilla lattes. Props to being able to keep a promise, and I’m totally not judging her, but damn, that’s cray!

Moral of the story: just continue to be yourself. If you’re a shitty person, then try not to be so shitty. If you’re broke, try to get a better job. But these are things you ought to do anyway. I feel like putting so much pressure on yourself the first day of the new year is just going to drive you nuts. Resolve to remain happy, because when you’re truly happy with yourself, everything else will fall into place. XOXO, ladies and gents. 

Love,

Sassy Ariel

P.S. That image is just to show you how overly excited I am for the World Cup!! Brasssiiill. 

Ricky Martin Used to Bully Gay People

It took years for Ricky Martin to come out as gay (in 2010 to be exact), and now he shows a lot of pride about it and has joined various LGBT rights groups. But can you believe at one point in his life he bullied gay kids? Yep. In a recent interview with GQ Australia he confessed that out of anger, he used to bully gays as a child.

“I was ashamed. When you’re told you’re wrong by everyone, from society, from your faith — my self-esteem was crushed. I took my anger out on those around me. I look back now and realize I would bully people who I knew were gay. I had internalized homophobia. To realize that was confronting to me. I wanted to get away from that.”

 

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This piece originally appeared on CosmoForLatinas.com.

Sex Addiction is NOT a Disorder, Study Says

Infamous cheaters like Tiger Woods and Russell Brand blamed their infidelity on sex addiction. Well, looks like those excuses will no longer work, because a recent study by UCLA researchers claims that sex addiction does not exist. Boo-yah!

In a study of 39 men and 13 women who have been said to suffer from sex addiction, researchers found that the brain does not function in the same way as that of an addict. They’re brains did not respond to sexual stimuli in the same way say a cocaine or crack addict would. The researchers say that so-called sex addiction could actually be nothing more than a really high libido.

While the researchers say they don’t want to discourage people from getting help, they do think sex rehabs should be examined and reevaluated. I couldn’t agree more. So the next time your cheating significant other cries that he’s addicted to sex, tell em to go fuck himself. Ha!

What do you think of this study?

My Favorite Love Quotes

Hey sassies!!

As I was watching mushy love movies this 4 day weekend, I finally admitted to myself that I’m a sucker for really cheesy love quotes (hence the reason my favorite movie and book ever is Breakfast at Tiffany’s—don’t judge). So I thought I’d round up 10 of my faves.

—”Love is not a habit, a commitment, or a debt. It isn’t what romantic songs tell us it is…Love simply is.” Paulo Coelho

—”A man who treats his woman like a princess is a proof that he has been born and raised in the arms of a queen.” Unknown

—”You call yourself a free spirit, a ‘wild thing,’ and you’re terrified somebody’s gonna stick you in a cage. Well baby, you’re already in that cage. You built it yourself. And it’s not bounded in the west by Tulip, Texas, or in the east by Somali-land. It’s wherever you go. Because no matter where you run, you just end up running into yourself.” Truman Capote’s Breakfast at Tiffany’s

—”Sometimes it lasts in love and sometimes it hurts instead.” Adele, Someone Like You

—”Never love anybody who treats you like you’re ordinary.” Oscar Wilde

—”Everyone says that loves hurts, but that’s not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Everyone confuse these things with love but reality, love is the only thing in this world that covers up all the pain and makes us feel wonderful again.” Unknown

—”Love is a language spoken by everyone but understood only by the heart.” Shirley Rindani

—”No, I don’t think I will kiss you, although you need kissing, badly. That’s what’s wrong with you. You should be kissed and often, and by someone who knows how.” – Gone With the Wind

—”I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” – Marilyn Monroe

—”I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.”

What are some of your favorite love quotes?